can i live in the house untill sold

It depends on what is determined in the divorce--either voluntarily between the two of you, if you can resolve/settle it voluntarily, or determined by the court if you can't work it out voluntarily. There is no right or wrong answer--no rule for what should always happen in this situation. Anything the two parties (you and your soon-to-be ex) work about between the two is acceptable; or the court has the power to make a determination, trying to do what is fair and appropriate, taking into effect the parties' respective earning potential, how much each contributed to buying/paying for the home, whether either has a compelling reason to stay in that *that* house (e.g. it's particularly close to a job or medical care, if the person is under regular care), and if there are children, who is the main caregiver and where is it in the children's interest to be. The court can, for example, let one or the other stay there pending any sale, with or without paying "rent" or upkeep (or possibly by reducing spousal support, to reflect the provision of a place to live). So either try to negotiate this with your spouse, or else make a motion to the family court asking for a determination in this regard.